Welcome to the latest addition to the Tattle Tailzz family! Man Tailzz is an advice column on all things related to relationships. Those relationships can be the one you have with yourself, your mate (partner), or your co-workers. Each week, I will answer your questions or scenarios from a male point-of-view. You can send your questions to me via Twitter (@sillethoughts), post them to my Facebook fan page (Sillethoughts), or you can put it in the comment section on this article. Well, now that we have all the news and information out of the way, let’s get to the first post.
This weeks question comes via Facebook from A. Kay. C. from Atlanta. She wants to know “why do most males stop courting after they get the Sex?!”
Good question, with a short answer: Because we can! I’ve seen it far too often in my dating life. A woman will hold her standards up and make a man jump through all the hoops before she has sex with him the first time. After that, it’s like open season on the booty. Why is that? Were all the dinners, and phone calls, and hunchin’ just a ruse to get him to “respect” you? Let me tell you a secret (lean in real close): Most men will play your game to get the sex the first time because we believe after that, it’s “open season on the booty” (I think I said that before, LOL!) Anyway, the best way to avoid him shutting down the courting rituals after you’ve had sex is to “train him”. Men, by nature, are creatures of habit. The best way to establish and maintain a habit is to make the rewards random – like a slot machine. People will sit at a slot machine for hours repeating the same behavior with the hope they hit the jackpot. You have to simply apply the same principle to men. Over the first three to six months of a relationship, if you are random with your “reward” (aka sex), he will continue to behave in his best manner because he doesn’t know when he will “get it” again. Over time, his courting behavior will be come a habit; and you will have the relationship/behavior you want.
That’s just my three cents…