I realized something yesterday. I realized why women become soooo offended when a man tries to sleep with them after buying them a couple of drinks. Admittedly, I’ve tried to do it several times myself with mixed results; however, I was always surprised when they would get offended. There’s nothing to get mad about. I’m just a guy being a guy, right? Wrong! Additionally, I will no longer call a woman a “gold digger” simply because she wants to go to a nice restaurant, or good concert, or (God forbid) shopping. I realized all that in one day. In just a few hours, my perspective on women and relationships was totally altered forever. My perspective was altered so much that Ladies, We Owe You An Apology.

Coming Up Short

The back story to my paradigm shift came when I accompanied a friend of mine as he was hair shopping for his daughter. Yes, I said hair shopping. I went into a several stores that only sold hair. It! Was! Incredible! The price points. The styles. The types. The brands. The lengths. The hair industry is serious business. That’s when my revelation hit me. I did the math. Let’s see, $100-$150 on some “good hair” (no pun intended). Another $100 or more to put it in. $60-$70 on a mani-pedi. What if she gets waxed or has her eye lashes done? What if she gets a new outfit? A woman can spend anywhere from $500 to $1,000 dollars to look good. And I’m trying to have sex after buying two drinks for a total of maybe $30 (including tip). Shhhhhhheeeeeeeeeeeiiiiiiiiittt! That ain’t going down playa, LOL! What I thought was “gold diggin’” was really just a simple case of unequal mathematics. $30 does not equal $1,000, or even $500. Guys, we’re coming up short and need to respect what they go through to look good for us.

Conclusion

I realized a great many things on my field trip yesterday. Yes, I asked myself the question, “Why are they going through all this isht?” Then, I realized another thing. We (men) do the same thing. Not in the sense of personal grooming, but we spend money on our cars, our clothes, or buying bottles in the club. We can stand in a bar or at a party for hours arguing about who’s the better player, Lebron or Kobe? I’m sure they ask “Why are they going through all this isht?” Bottom line is that we do what we do to make us feel good. You could change the cliche to state, ”One man’s trash is another wo-man’s treasure.” Finally fellas, we show it by our responses to them when they have it done right. Until we start paying more attention to the short, natural hair styles, the weave superstores will remain in existence. So ladies, on behalf of all men, I apologize. Now I know. At the same time, if you catch me in the club, before I buy that drink, just say, “Playa, you’re $500 in the hole.” LOL!

That’s just my three cents…

Sillethoughts

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