Eva Mendes is finally speaking out after disappearing for awhile and then announcing her pregnancy and then giving birth to her daughter Esmeralda Amada with Ryan Gossling…. In a new interview with Violet Gray Magazine she admits it’s been quite the adjustment dealing with mother hood… Check out some excerpts inside.
C.H.G.: WELL, YOU’RE A MOVIE STAR WHO HAD A BABY WITH ANOTHER MOVIE STAR WHO DOESN’T HAVE TWO NANNIES AND A BABY NURSE.
E.M.: I’m doing it without a nanny for now but I’m open to the idea of having a nanny in the future. Esmeralda has two amazing grandmothers and incredible aunties who come over and really help me. But as far as a nanny or a night nurse, for me that part of being a mother at this early stage is the struggle of not being able to sleep and not knowing what I’m doing and really going through it with her and battling out those nights. C.H.G.: WHEN DID YOU FIND OUT YOU WERE PREGNANT? WERE YOU TRYING OR DID IT TAKE YOU BY SURPRISE?
E.M.: You’re killing me, Cassandra.
C.H.G.: NEXT QUESTION?
E.M.: I think so. I just broke into a mini-sweat.
C.H.G.: OK, FAIR ENOUGH. DO YOU WANT TO TALK ABOUT THE FACT THAT YOU REALLY FLEW UNDER THE RADAR AND MANAGED TO AVOID THE PAPARAZZI AND THE SPOTLIGHT IN GENERAL THE WHOLE TIME YOU WERE PREGNANT?
E.M.: Whether we like it or not, privacy is going to be very difficult for Esmeralda. I think it’s unfair but that’s our reality. So Ryan and I decided early on to give her as much privacy as we could. And my pregnancy was the first opportunity to give her that. It’s such an intimate time for the mother, too. I know that it seems all very innocuous when you’re flipping through a tabloid at the doctor’s office or see a photo of a pregnant lady online, but I find the media’s “bump watch” obsession to be both intrusive and stressful. So I made a decision to eject myself from it completely. I was like, “Annnnd I’m out.”
C.H.G.: WHAT WERE YOU DOING? WERE YOU READING BOOKS LIKE WHAT TO EXPECT WHEN YOU’RE EXPECTING?
E.M.: Yes, although mainly I was just taking the time to relax and enjoy my pregnancy. I was constantly with family. I have eight nieces and nephews so my brothers and sisters know a thing or two about what to expect when you’re expecting. I have a very tight-knit family and the pregnancy brought us even closer together.
C.H.G.: DO YOU HAVE A NEW APPRECIATION OF YOUR MOTHER AS A MOTHER?
E.M.: Definitely. I cannot believe that by the time my mother was 24 she had three kids under the age of four. She was in Cuba and totally alone. So when it’s the wee hours of the night and I’m feeling a bit insane, I think about her and realize that I have no right to complain about anything.
C.H.G.: DID YOU KNOW YOU WERE HAVING A GIRL?
E.M.: We actually did. We were really excited about naming her.
C.H.G.: TELL ME ABOUT THE NAME, ESMERALDA AMADA.
E.M.: We both love the Esmeralda character from the Victor Hugo novel The Hunchback of Notre Dame and just think it’s a beautiful name. Her middle is Amada, which was my grandmother’s name. It means “beloved” in Spanish.
C.H.G.: MOTHERHOOD IS TOUGH.
E.M.: People always told me that. But I’ve learned that it’s way harder to be a baby. Everything is a struggle for her. For instance, I haven’t thrown up since the ‘90s and she’s thrown up twice since we started this interview. Motherhood is cake compared to what it’s like to be a baby.